Melanin & Pink Ribbons

When I was diagnosed with breast cancer I was in shock. My first feeling was abject sadness, and then I just wanted to cry. A breast cancer diagnosis can be overwhelming to anyone and whatever feelings you have are valid and normal. When the doctor uttered the words “You have breast cancer” I wanted to drop the phone. Your experience may have been different, but this post is for the ladies beginning this journey. Here are a few things I wish I had known:

• You don’t have to be strong all the time- as Black women we are caretakers of everyone before ourselves. This is not the time for that. This is the time to cry, rest, and lean on others. You are made strong in your vulnerability.
• Ask all the questions, even the hard ones- medical spaces can be daunting. Bring a trusted loved one to all appointments because you need another set of ears. Ask all the questions you need to get a clear picture of your diagnosis and treatment.
• Your emotions will be a rollercoaster- it’s normal for your feelings to fluctuate from sadness, fear anger, or hope. Use prayer, journaling, or a support group to navigate your new normal.
• Your appearance may change but your beauty won’t- hair loss, darkened skin, and weight loss may find you on this journey. Remember it’s a part of the process and temporary. These canes are for your survival.
• Not everyone will know how to support you- so be clear about what you need and set boundaries if you need to. You must preserve your peace.
• You are not alone- there is a community. Access more blog posts from my site Melanin & Pink Ribbons or find other online support. Ask your medical team for referrals and most of all don’t suffer in silence!

You didn’t choose this journey, but you can walk it with grace and support. You are loved and cared for just as you. Go forth with your head held high ready to fight, thrive, and survive!